“Have you read those books yet?”
“Oh, but of course, I finished them ages ago!”
Seems whether women are openly admitting it, or hiding a title while on the tube, many are reading THOSE books* and are now looking for their Christian Grey – or hoping their partners are suddenly going to come home with a riding crop!
It seems that as shift has been happening for some time but a few reactions to these books have confirmed it for me.
One husband is shocked at suggestions of being tied up and playing in ‘movies’. Others are shying away from experimentation and freedom of sexual expression – from their wives! Are you kidding me?! Us gals are usually the ones faced with interesting requests and are nudged annoyingly to try something different. Perhaps they are worried that they won’t ‘measure’ up to the fantasy.One client is pregnant with her third kid as a result of brazen romp with hubby!
So how does this affect the single lady on the lookout for love? Well, I say that unrealistic expectations have always been a hazardous area to explore, but now it seems it could be even more treacherous if we expect sex to be as exciting, frequent or kinky as the stuff of Fifty Shades! We can, however, communicate, nurture and show the men we finally meet what we want and what we are capable of in all areas – and not just the bedroom.
I’m a very sexual and passionate woman and I enjoyed the books, even if she did overuse the words ‘exploded’ and ‘my sex’ ! I know what I want from a partner and I hope he will be open to fun and laughter, but not at either of our expense. Just an honest and safe environment to express our love – and lust – for each other. I’m hoping to follow i my grandmother’s footsteps who until the age of eighty spent her Sundays in bed with her man – thirteen years her junior. He also held her hand every day and pencilled in her eyebrows when her eyesight failed, even if they were a tad skew!
So no, relationships are never quite black and white. Finding one, and keeping it, certainly isn’t. But allowing it to be grey, well that has a totally new meaning!